Some scripture is easy for me to teach and explain because I can use a self testimony, but of Proverbs 12:4, I can’t. I am not a husband, and to be honest, I haven’t been a boyfriend many times. I would love to be a loving husband and father to some children, but that opportunity hasn’t happened to me. Several years before I became a bondservant of God, I read a book lying around the house called “Chicken Soup for the Soul“. One story I remember is titled the Gift, and it is from the point of view of the bus driver. The driver tells the reader that a young lady had been riding the bus a few times as it repeats its routes repeatedly. The driver can tell the young lady is depressed. She can see her crying. The bus driver then says she remembers the young lady because something extraordinary happened that day. She says this was the day that a sweet old man, Charlie, would catch a ride. Charlie gets on board and takes his usual seat on the bus, carrying flowers. The driver says the flowers smell fresh and look lovely. The young lady that has been crying notices Charlie and the flowers. As the bus goes about its usual route, the girl looks at Charlie’s flowers a few times. The bus driver and Charlie know this. When the bus gets to where Charlie gets off, he goes to the young lady and tells her,” I notice you like the flowers I was going to give my wife. I’m sure she wouldn’t mind if I gave them to you, to cheer you up,’ so he gives her the flowers, she says, “Thanks mister,” she takes the flowers and lowers her nose to smell them and she smiles. Charlie gets off the bus, and the young lady watches him walk to a cemetery, kneel down on a tombstone, and talk. The bus driver tells the young lady that it is Charlie’s wife, and the young lady replies, “I want a husband to love me like that. “As a bachelor, a man who has success at dating or finding a wife, and a Christian or bondservant of God, it complicated to find a godly woman I would want to share my life with. Even when I see a beautiful lady, she may have ways that don’t seem virtuous to me, but that doesn’t mean I am so virtuous myself. Behind every good man is a good woman, and a godly husband needs a godly wife. That is why scripture says to not be unequally yoked.
2 Corinthians 6:12 You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted by your own affections. 13 Now, in return for the same (I speak as to children), you also be open.14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
The only reason marriage exists is because God created in it Genesis chapter 2. A perfect virtuous marriage union is between a man and woman, who both love and know God, and they love each other, as much as the Lord loves them. If they are not a man and woman is not virtuous, they will be a shame to God and to each other. A happy marriage and happy family is a happy home, and it is precious jewels to God when the family loves each other. Scripture tells us to avoid a relationship, with an unvirtuous woman, but an unvirtuous man can damage a godly person as well. Brothers and sisters, if you want a happy virtuous home, learn how to be a precious jewel to God and to others. God bless you all; the Lord Jesus loves you, and so do I. His bondservant, Samuel Head.
Ecclesiastes 7:26 I discovered that a seductive woman is a trap more bitter than death. Her passion is a snare, and her soft hands are chains. Those who are pleasing to God will escape her, but sinners will be caught in her snare. 27 “This is my conclusion,” says the Teacher. “I discovered this after looking at the matter from every possible angle. 28 Though I have searched repeatedly, I have not found what I was looking for. Only one out of a thousand men is virtuous, but not one woman! 29 But I did find this: God created people to be virtuous, but they have each turned to follow their own downward path.”